arm·chair quar·ter·back (plural arm·chair quar·ter·backs) MSN's Definition:
1. viewer who criticizes conduct of games: somebody who is certain that he or she can make better calls than the coaches or players while watching a competitive sport on television
2. giver of unwanted advice: somebody who offers unwanted advice about how to do something or tries to supervise an activity without being asked
No matter what the circumstance there are always people ready to share their opinion, to criticise and give unwanted advice. It is okay to listen if you want. You can give their suggestions consideration. However you don't need to take it.
All too often advice is based on only having "some" of the facts. Sometimes it is based on information that is old. Although research hasn't yet determined what causes various cancers or how to cure them, the advancements in medical research is phenomenal and occurring everyday. You need to make decisions based on what makes you feel most confident. Whether you follow a doctor's guidance or choose a holistic approach or combination, the choice is yours.
You will make yourself stressed (not a healthy thing) if you try to please others. Don't let yourself be guilted in to trying something you prefer not to do. People may have the best of intentions but they are only making assessments based on their own experience or research.
Hindsight is said to be 20 x 20. That is because they are viewing things that have already happened. It is easy to play the "woulda, shoulda" game from that perspective. In treating your cancer you need to be looking forward. The past may hold useful information however it is what your options are today that need to be considered so you have a healthy, happy tomorrow.
Sometimes it would be nice if we could be covered with a Teflon coating. It would make it easier for us to make decisions. All the advice that was adding confusion and filling our minds with "what ifs" would slide off.
You need to ask questions of your doctor. This will give you the best starting place to create the "game plan" best suited for you. In the beginning you may not even know which questions to ask. On the left are LINKS to various cancer sites. Many have a list of questions to get you started.
Have confidence in your decisions. It is your life. It is okay if you want to be your own armchair quarterback. It is great to learn from experience what works best and what doesn't. Afterall when we know more we do better.
Every person is unique. Every situation is unique. It is your life. You don't have to make decisions based on a general consensus. You are the majority. You rule!
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